He had listened to all my concerns and really stepped up. What’s … You two have feelings for each other, you both wish it could work, but you both know it probably won’t. If your boyfriend tells you that he's unsure about making a real commitment to you and he doesn't want to get married, whether he doesn't believe in it in general or just doesn't want to marry you, then that's all that you need to know. That is the sign his emotions are not strong enough and that his pride is more important for him than you. … How do I go about this? You have to be strong to stay in an unhealthy and unpromising relationship. He may also expect you to apologize and make the first move because he may currently think that things are completely over and doesn’t want to annoy you. It was the only way I could get past it and really forgive him. I took him back . You can only give others information. At first my fiance didn’t want to break up, he said he loved me so much and of course he would stay, but at the same time he wanted me to follow my dreams. He is here to stay since he found a job. Thanks you, You may use these HTML tags and attributes: It seems that it is not the case that this person did not want a relationship, its that he didn’t want a relationship with ME. Viewing 10 posts - 1 through 10 (of 10 total), He didn't want a relationship but now he is back after I walked away. So proceed gently. In dating and relationships, a woman may spend time with a man who is not ready for a committed, monogamous relationship, but communicates his enjoyment of her company. Sarah, sometimes a lady needs to suffer a few heartbreaks before they learn what they want or need in a future mate/partner. But I finally walked away and God revealed to me why he just stopped talking to me. The reasons don’t matter, the facts do. I still do like him but do not want to waste my time. This topic contains 9 replies, has 1 voice, and was last updated by  sarah 5 years, 4 months ago. This sounds so cliche but it’s absolutely true. Hearing that he now has a girlfriend, just 2 months after I walked away from him hurts like hell! He likes you too since he came back so there is something there. It’s probably best to give some sort of explanation. Remember this every time you want to go back to him. But their relationship also didn’t last and was over in under two years. Even when your brain tells you it’s time to leave and continue with your life, there is a part of you that wants him to fight for you and for your relationship. Instead, he would walk with you. I couldn’t stand it. First of all, let’s spend some time discussing why you might decide If so then just tell him, “I’m not looking for anything casual, and if that’s what your looking for then I don’t want to waste my time with you.”. If you are wondering when to walk away from a relationship with an upsetting partner, consider ending it immediately. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you now, he never will. (from what you wrote. He after several months he still wants to meet with you, there is somethings there, and maybe something genuine. Will do Maria, I guess I’m still pretty bitter about how things went before…how he wanted to hang out/keep in touch but was “too busy” and now he says he really wants me? The ladies have given good advice – and what Lane said to say is a good guide for what to say. He told my oldest daughter the only reason why he concerned about me was I was married to him. Bold(e) Women ... My relationship status doesn’t define my worth. But … No Appreciation. Is he just giving me space or is he not that interested any more? Why would a man chase you when he knows you aren't worth the effort? That is sign enough he doesn’t want you to stay. So, be thankful that he isn’t doing anything. “But Adam, I’m really into sex too. © A New Mode, Inc. 2009-2021 All rights reserved. You are aware that you two will never work out and that your happiness is not with him. To be honest though this guy most likely isn’t even close to wanting to settle down and is just playing the field and sowing his oats. It also gave him a chance to explain where he’d been coming from, which helped me understand. When a guy says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, chances are he's being frank with you; he simply doesn't want to be in a relationship. So it goes in the game of love. If a man truly wants you, he will never let you go. If he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me, then just get out of my life!” ... I’ve been following you and your husband for years and you both have really helped me. So, I walked away. Anything less isn’t for me. Keep walking and never look back! While the logical side of you tells you that the break-up is the only possible solution, your heart and emotions tell you otherwise. I think it took a couple of months for us to get back together after he first came back. Love and compatibility aren’t on the same scale. Some never learn and other do—its ultimately up to you but you need to fully own and take full responsibility for whatever outcome results from it. No calls no texting , no contact , the he came back. You want him to scream, to beg you to stay. The attraction is there, but that’s where it ends. He won’t ever act in the way he did before you walked away because now he realizes how his life is without you in it – simply not as good. Many women leave their partners so they could see that they can’t live without them and for them to realize how much they love and need them. Beyond Sex, He’s Really Not Spending Time With You.